Yeah, that's right, I'm going there.
So I finished Chapter 5 over the weekend and the entire chapter is a scene where Sarah and her new beau Garrett attend a fetish party. It's a little out of Sarah's element (and mine too!) but I wanted to branch out a little bit. One part of the contrast between Garrett and James is that the former is much more experienced and open-minded so I thought this might be a good way to illustrate that contrast. So they go to the party and they utilize a St. Andrew's Cross, a flogger, and some nipple clamps, plus some help from other party guests. When I finished writing it, I sent it to a friend who has more experience in the BDSM lifestyle to tell me how realistic it was and he sent back several very helpful suggestions that I used to make a few changes.
I'm pleased with the way it turned out, not that it couldn't use a bit more fine tuning. I have had three people read it now: the aforementioned BDSM friend, my vanilla (i.e. non-lifestyle) girlfriend who has been reading every word and offering feedback since early on in the first book, and my lover/partner who has been integral to the entire project. They all three said it was hot but that there were elements that they weren't into sexually.
Interestingly, those elements were different for all three of them. I get that not everyone is going to be turned on by every sexual act. Everyone has preferences and things they find more arousing than other things. My vanilla girlfriend, for example, didn't even know what "snowballing" was (which happens at the end of Chapter 5) and I had to explain it to her. She said, "Ewwww."
What I want to know though is can you still get turned on by a sexual passage even if there is one activity described therein that doesn't float your boat? Or could there be an element so unappealing that it would ruin the whole thing for you? Furthermore, if you don't mind being explicit, what types of activities would you find repulsive to read about?